Four Essentials for Happiness

Four Essentials for Happiness
By: Brian Tracy

You may have a thousand different goals over the course of your lifetime, but they all will fall into one of four basic categories. Everything you do is an attempt to enhance the quality of your life in one or more of these areas.

The Key to Happiness
The first category is your desire for happy relationships. You want to love and be loved by others. You want to have a happy, harmonious home life. You want to get along well with the people around you, and you want to earn the respect of the people you respect. Your involvement in social and community affairs results from your desire to have happy interactions with others and to make a contribution to the society you live in.

Enjoy Your Work
The second category is your desire for interesting and challenging work. You want to make a good living, of course, but more than that, you want to really enjoy your occupation or profession. The very best times of your life are when you are completely absorbed in your work.

Become Financially Independent
The third category is your desire for financial independence. You want to be free from worries about money. You want to have enough money in the bank so that you can make decisions without counting your pennies. You want to achieve a certain financial state so that you can retire in comfort and never have to be concerned about whether or not you have enough money to support your lifestyle. Financial independence frees you from poverty and a need to depend upon others for your livelihood. If you save and invest regularly throughout your working life, you will eventually reach the point where you will never have to work again.
 
Enjoy Excellent Health
The fourth and final category is your desire for good health, to be free of pain and illness and to have a continuous flow of energy and feelings of well-being. In fact, your health is so central to your life that you take it for granted until something happens to disrupt it.

Peace of Mind is the Key
Peace of mind is essential for every one of these. The greater your peace of mind, the more relaxed and positive you are, the less stress you suffer, the better is your overall health.

The more peace of mind you have, the better are your relationships, the more optimistic, friendly and confident you are with everyone in your life. When you feel good about yourself on the inside, you do your work better and take more pride in it. You are a better boss and coworker. And the greater your overall peace of mind, the more likely you are to earn a good living, save regularly for the future and ultimately achieve financial independence.

Control Your Attention
Life is very much a study of attention. Whatever you dwell upon and think about grows and expands in your life. The more you pay attention to your relationships, the quality and quantity of your work, your finances and your health, the better they will become and the happier you will be.

Action Exercises
Here are three things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action.

First, take time on a regular basis to think about what would make you really happy in each of the four areas.

Second, set specific, measurable goals for improvement in your relationships, your health, your work and your finances and write them down.

Third, resolve to do something every day to increase the quality of some area of your life - and then keep your resolution.

 

Stress leads to teeth clenching

Dentists: Stress leads to teeth clenching
The daily grind-ing

By Jessica Fargen Monday, March 2, 2009 http://www.bostonherald.com Hard Times

The sinking economy, joblessness and 401(k) crashes have created so much stress that some Bay State dentists say teeth grinding and clenching is at an all-time high, keeping people up at night and taking a bite out of their wallets.

“This is by far the worst I have ever seen,” said Dr. David Harte, a 30-year Milton dentist who has seen a threefold increase in teeth grinding and clenching. “People are under so much stress with job situations and finances and retirement funds tanking that they are just clenching and grinding. People are literally snapping off corners of the teeth.”

Dentists at Varinos Dental Associates in Peabody are fitting more patients with mouthguards to stop the painful practice, and many blame household finance stress, said office manager Nancy MacDonald.

“They are waking up with headaches and jaw pain,” she said.

Stress is one cause of teeth grinding and clenching, and can result in worn-down teeth or chipped teeth, tender gums, headaches, severe jaw pain, neck aches and muscle spasms.

Fixing the problem can be costly. A new crown on a fractured tooth can cost hundreds of dollars, and a dentist-designed mouth guard run as much as $600.

Holistic Technologies in Arlington, which sells a $395 biofeedback headband that reduces grinding, has seen sales double in recent months.

“When people get more stressed, they tend to clench more,” said CEO Lee Weinstein.

Wendy, a Quincy mom of two teens in college, said worries about her boyfriend’s job security exacerbated her teeth grinding. Now she wears a nightguard.

“It just got progressively bad because of all the stress going on,” said Wendy, who didn’t want her last name used to protect her privacy. “I’d wake up in the middle of the night with the grinding. I’d wake up totally unrested.”

One Dartmouth dentist says he worries more that cash-strapped families will skip dentist visits and procedures to save money - a decision that will cost more in the long-run.

“In dentistry, when you don’t have things fixed, they don’t get better, they get worse,” said Milton A. Glicksman, president of the Massachusetts Dental Society. “You’ll find people who feel they cannot afford to go to the dentist, and that’s where you’ll find the biggest impact.”

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